I’ve been on my healing and self discovery journey for quite some time now, and I find it very interesting that as soon I stand up for myself, I started losing friends left, right and centre. I’m an empath, which means I feel very deeply and are very in tune with my emotions.
I’m an honest person that only wants to see the best in people and believe that only the best exist in people. In the world we live in today, I find it trulu shocking that the world is made up of liars, chesters, narcissists and bullies. The moment you raise your voice and stand up for what you believe in, you are no longer needed in these so called “friends” life.
Isn’t that odd. Your friends are suppose to be your cheerleaders, your supporters, your advocates and there for you. They suppose to be there for you just like you are there for them, but I guess that is not the case. I don’t pretend, I don’t lie, I am an open book from the start. How you see me is what you get. I’m transparent and honest and loyal and true to myself, and I expect the same from my friends.
That’s why I only have a handful, not even a handful of friends, like one or two maybe and then my family which is the most important to me and that comes first always.
It’s sad to say that the people you thought was genuine are not. The people you thought were true and are who they say they are, but their actions are the opposite. In life I realised that people lie and they love to over exaggerate most things.
The longer you get to know them, the more of their true self gets revealed. When people show you who they are, believe them. I think I dodged lots of bullets to be honest, as hard and painful as it is, how content I am with my two friends.
People also don’t like being happy for you like they say they are. They can’t let the light shine on you and be happy for you. They have to be greedy and want the sparkle all to themselves. I find myself also in that predicament that when somehow I say something don’t know what, and then they the so called “friends” all of sudden throw me away like garbage and started treating me differently, but cannot just have an open and honest conversation with me.
It’s heartbreaking isn’t it. I haven’t found my tribe yet, but my friend in Northland have a great group of girlfriends where I gelled so nicely and connected to in an instant. I will always cherish that girlfriends, they are amazing women.
The reason I wrote this today, is because I want to tell you what I’ve been through and my experience so far and I hope that you can also relate. Always stay true to yourself and don’t be afraid to speak up and be honest and straight forward. Always be kind and compassionate to others even if they hurt you, cause that just shows that you are being a better person for it.
It’s true what they say, in New Zealand or to any other country you immigrate to, they always say don’t make friends with South Africans, because that’s literally what happens, what I explained to you here. I don’t go out of my way anymore since my last bad experience with one. I stay connected to my well women group which is an awesome group of women too!
I have my two friends and my family and I am happy with that and content with that. I call people out on their behaviour and that’s probably why I am not everyone’s favourite cup of tea I guess. I can smell and see bullshit from a mile away.
I guess people just see me as a threat cause I don’t turn napkins around and I don’t fake anything I hate jealous people, bullies, narcissists, liars and that whole crowd.
Don’t be afraid to get to know people, but stick to your guns and don’t be afraid to be who you are. If people can treat you like that, it shows you more about who they are than who you are and believe them. Actions speak louder than words and I truly believe that. They can talk as much as they want but it comes to if they can walk the walk. If they can practise what they preach.
So, I leave you with this. Let this be a motivation to never stop going forward in life, even if it means leaving all of them behind, your path have been carved out when you were in your mother’s womb. Soon everything will make sense, I promise, never stop being your true, authentic self.